I’ve always asked myself “Why do I look like my partner (Jumel)?” because a lot of people have been pointing this fact out. So, I looked for answers.
My “why I look like my partner” backstory
Two years ago, I and Jumel worked in the same office as defense analysts/researchers for the government. During my first week of work, everyone’s welcoming me as Jumel’s sister.
Yes — as SISTER.
I can’t help but laugh. Also, I had no choice but to correct their appreciation of facts.
“Boyfriend ko po si Jumel, Ma’am.” (Ma’am, Jumel is my boyfriend.)
Everyone was surprised.
So, imagine their faces when they found out that I and Jumel are in no way related by blood.
Actually, we get this impression a lot; almost all the time.
People can’t help but stare at us, trying to figure out whether we are a couple or siblings. And honestly, I think we’ll never get used to such attention.
Theories on why I look like my partner
Old folks here say that if you look like your fiance or partner, you’ll end up marrying one another. This means the two of you are “meant to be”.
On other hand, others say that the reason, why I look like my partner, is borne out of the fact that we are always together, just like what happens in married couples.
Well, neither of these two makes sense at all for me.
First, no one has established or proved the truth behind the “Meant to Be” Theory because there are couples, like my parents, who end up marrying each other and spending wonderful bliss together despite the lack (or absence) of similar features between them.
Second, I and Jumel have ever since been in a long distance relationship. We don’t have the opportunity to be together and eventually “look the same”.
And finally, how can two people have similar looks just by being a couple?
Assortative Mating: the “science” behind why I look like my partner
It turns out, my choices in mating is the underlying reason why I look like my partner.
According to the Reader’s Digest’s article entitled “There’s Science Behind Why Some Couples Look Like They’re Related”, researches reveal that we tend to get attracted to someone who is of the same or similar facial features, size, shape, and ethnicity as ourselves.
Also, humans were found to select their life-long partners who share similar non-physical characteristics as themselves. India Times’s article, entitled “Ever Wondered Why Some Couples Look Alike? Here’s What Science Has To Say”, refers to this as “assortative mating”, which suggests that we are most likely to end up with someone who matches our genetic mapping and look strangely similar like us.
Considering all these, perhaps, it seems that I and Jumel subconsciously chose each other.
This might explain why I look like my partner, Jumel, and share the same interests (faith, music, art, law, politics and defense) even though we have not yet been living or cohabiting as spouses.
But having an uncanny resemblance is not an assurance — it’s the Lord’s promise that is
Admittedly, the foregoing findings actually makes sense. It answers the question why I look like my partner, Jumel. However, no one knows whether or not we will end up spending the rest of our lives together.
Only the Lord knows all these things.
But, in Jesus’ name, we claim that we are!
Jumel came to my life when I was already in the right age and maturity to handle a relationship despite the rigors of law school. I came to Jumel’s life when he was at the same point of his life. We found each other at a point when we found the beauty of surrendering our lives and future to the Lord.
We found each other at a time when nothing would have made sense had it not been for our fervent prayer and faith to His promises.
So, what do we do now?
Well, as usual, we do our best to correct — as politely as possible — other people’s wrong notions or beliefs towards us. I can’t blame them. Even our own relatives are in awe to find out that we look like long lost fraternal twins.
At any rate, we praise and thank God for allowing us to cross each other’s paths and stay in each other’s arms, in His name, [hopefully] forever.
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